My beloved Pontheolla is a dreamer and a doer,
an original ideator and implementer,
a quintessential “tree shaker” and “jelly maker”
She can get the not just low-hanging fruit
of the first or easily-conceived notion
to fall from the mind’s tree
and then, whate’er the aspiration,
turn it into the envisioned jam or jelly.
(Here, I must digress,
for in my experience, it seems
most folk, are better at one or the other;
able to dream, but not build
or build, but not dream.
I, for one, am “a tree shaker,”
but not, well, really, rarely “a jelly maker.”)
And she, as an off-the-charts Myers-Briggs “judger,”
has a decided inclination to make decisions
(the quicker, the better!).
Thus, frequent are the clashes with my off-the-charts Myers-Briggs “perceiver”
who loves to continue to consider a question
beyond the point of making (ever!) a decision!
Therefore, she is quite skillful, even willful
(that is, proficient and deliberate)
when I, typically, thinking out loud, give voice to a nascent idea,
in taking up the end of my ellipsis of open-ended contemplation,
tagging on one or two (three or four or more) things I could, should do
(taking my A beyond B, aye, to Z!)
bringing my airy reflection to its logical conclusion!
And she, as an ideator and implementer,
is the truest practitioner of the relational principle of interdependence
(that essential, inescapable mutual dependence of all things and persons).
Thus, what one thing or person does or doesn’t do
inexorably affects what another thing or person can do.
Hence, for example, when I do what I said I would do,
allowing her to do what she said she would do,
she is happiest.
And when I don’t, then she can’t,
leading her, most dismayed, to say,
“This sends me over the edge!”
(“The edge” being, in language proverbial,
“the end of the rope” when her patience is lessened,
her exasperation heightened
or her “tipping point” when my non-action,
making the goal remote and, potentially, unreachable,
is the catalyst or friction sparking her internal upheaval.)
As we, each and all, have “ends of ropes” and “tipping points”:
What sends you over the edge?